One of the more curious developments of my lifetime has been the increasingly blatant celebration of sex and sexual perversion coinciding with the rebirth of a belligerent puritanism. The trend towards increasing sexualization of just about everything was well underway by the 70s and by the 80s the taboo against homosexuality had all but vanished and was in fact replaced with a bias in favor of it by the 90s.
The advent of the internet allowed every kind of deviant to find like-minded individuals and feed their twisted manias and this also helped push the culture towards acceptance of things that were simply taboo in earlier times.
It seems quaint now to think about the stir caused by Madonna masturbating with a crucifix or feeling "like a virgin." My kids look at that and simply shrug: Seems pretty tame to them.
So on the one hand, we've never been more exposed to every conceivable kind of sexual practice and thanks to online mate-seeking, it has never been easier to find anonymous, constraint-free (and sanitary) sex.
At the same time, militant feminism has brought forth a 21st Century version of Orwell's Junior Anti-Sex League. The anti-rape hysteria (and I use that word deliberately) where the accusation is tantamount to conviction can only have the outcome of driving men into dating non-college women. The very standard of "affirmative consent" - passed into statute without any real idea of how to achieve it - is an effort to outlaw any and all sex, marital or non-marital.
This is because the legislation empowers the woman (and only the woman) to retroactively withhold consent and thereby create a crime with no physical evidence and no witnesses other than the participants.
What is more, as the case with Mattress Girl at Columbia, even if the male somehow gets exonerated, he will continued to be harassed and such stalking is considered not only legal but laudable by feminists.
The left has never been capable of thinking through the consequences of its actions and contradiction has never bothered them, but it is fascinating to look at exactly the kind of doublethink the modern feminist must now embrace as her of her credo:
1. Women and men are completely equal in every way, yet when both get drunk, only the male is answerable for his actions.
2. Women are mentally and emotionally strong enough to be CEOs, world leaders and combat soldiers, yet they cannot be expected to report crimes against them to law enforcement or defend themselves due to their emotional frailty.
3. Sex is wonderful and needs to be celebrated with week-long campus events highlighting exotic practices, yet the actual performance of the act needs to have more legal documentation than a corporate merger.
Radical feminists have long tried to hijack Valentine's Day into a period of mourning, dubbing it "V-Day" to remember the victims of sexual assault or the past offenses of the Patriarchy.
Some years ago (pre-internet) I wrote a mock article about how, after the ritual naming of names and airing of grievances, the feminists concluded their ceremony with the ceremonial castration and killing of a white goat to symbolize both the guilt of all white males and the fate that they would face.
In fact, there is a certain amount of paganism going on in all of this, from invocations of one's "inner goddess" to full-throated denunciations of the Christian moral tradition and traditional ideal of strong, masculine husband and supportive, feminine wife.
Strangely, biology is now taking a side in this discussion, revealing that it is intrinsic to human nature for men and women to be different. The roles of the two sexes must and therefore are different. Women uniquely can bear young and their thought processes are honed to this end, making them capable of enduring great pain (essential for childbirth) and socially more adroit.
Men, by contrast, are the predatory side of the species, optimized to hunt, defend hearth and home and they obtain their mates through displays of this prowess. It is interesting to note that despite decades of Hollywood attempting reprogram people to find Alan Alda's "Hawkeye Pierce" as the epitome of the desireable man (a weak, handsome, educated, funny, supportive coward), women continue to gravitate towards strong, masculine figures.
Of course that isn't fair to Hawkeye, who (as I noted before) actually did display courage under fire, often sheltering the nurse he was with with his own body when under fire. Still, there has been a concerted effort to show that women can be as strong or stronger then men. The scene where the tiny female martial artist utterly crushes the beefy male opponent are now a staple of every movie.
(It is amusing to note that even though Hollywood keeps advocating women in close combat situations, they know better than anyone else that this does not really work for. Remember the super-muscular female Colonial Marine Vasquez in "Aliens?" She was the avatar of the hard-ass woman, yet the actress needed frequent breaks because the prop-equipment - which fired blanks, not real round - was simply too much for her to carry for extended periods.)
The current new thing is for people to get surgery in order to try to erase these differences, but once again all that is being created is a stitched-together construct, a Frankenstein's monster of mixed sex. (And isn't it interesting that feminists now wonder if men who become women are not also exercising their "privilege" to become women - everything is a crime with these people.)
The awful, inescapable truth that has feminists so enraged is that the vast majority of people are happy in an arrangement where man and woman are joined as partners and lovers, husband and wife, different but together they become one flesh and from their union new life is born.
Valentine's Day is thus becoming the exclusive province of traditional married couples - or those who aspire to it. Every effort to subvert or destroy it is doomed to failure because down through the millennia of human existence the image of a husband bringing a gift to his wife and professing his continued love has continued to stir women into renewed passion.
Despite efforts to secularize and paganize this day, this purpose endures and it is one reason why, protestations to the contrary, women who have no "valentine" are so freaking angry about everything else.